Posted by: allstaragility | February 14, 2010

Poor Sportsmanship…Ain’t doin’ that!

Why is it human nature to be negative?  No matter how hard we may try to rise above it, there are still those whose goals are to drag us down with them into the pits of mental destruction.  This is a such a depressing notion and one of which I hoped our sport would never witness.  I used to have this concept that agility was immune to the ailments of the obedience and breed rings;  politics, cliques, and animosity among exhibitors getting a kick out of playing mind games.  I was certainly blind to this in my early days of competition- ah the ignorant bliss of being a newbie when my narrow-minded focus was solely on getting my crazy dog around the ring!

Today, one has to develop a callous to negative influences to stay focused and enjoy any measure of success.  However, being calloused is not the same as being ignorant.   I am appreciative that my parents instilled in me a very strong sense of right versus wrong and how to play fair.  This attribute is also one of my biggest weaknesses.   As a result, I am overly sensitive when these values are blatently defiled.  There comes a time when no callous is thick enough to prevent one from becoming negatively affected by these people who feed off of bullying others,  repeatedly push the boundaries of acceptable behavior and believe they are above the rules.

There will always be admirers who condone this behavior, thinking the association with such people is “cool”.   My advice is to resist becoming a lemming who blindly follows others…sooner of later there is bound to be a cliff!  To poor sportsmanship, just say NO!!!!!!!  The best prevention is to surround yourself with friends who share your same sense of values and become a buffer.  To all of my buffers- I thank you profusely for keeping me grounded and sane!  We may not have control of the actions of others, but we do have control over how their actions affect us!

I think we can all learn from the Olympians who are bound by the following oath: “We swear that we will take part in these Olympic Games in the true spirit of sportsmanship, and that we will respect and abide by the rules that govern them, for the glory of sport and the honour of our country.”

A friend just sent me the following words of wisdom written by Mother Teresa:

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;      Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;      Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;      Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;      Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;      Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;      Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;      Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;      Give the world the best you’ve got anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;      It was never between you and them anyway.



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