Posted by: allstaragility | February 26, 2012

those little acts of kindness…

Something very nice (although rather insignificant in the grand scheme of things) happened to me on Friday.  Just one of those little acts of kindness.  I have been going to the same hair-stylist for the last 7 years.  I only went to somebody else once (I had a coupon) and quickly hunted down Liz to fix it.  This was right before I left for Worlds in Switzerland in 2006.  Note to self: no matter how cheap, DO NOT got to a new hair-dresser right before a very important trip!

With my move to KC, I have severely neglected my hair.  Somebody asked if I had dyed it darker… nope, just hadn’t had time to do anything with it.  Since I was headed to Manhattan this weekend, I decided, on a whim, that I would see if Liz was available.  Unfortunately, she doesn’t work on Fridays, so I just decided to go with whoever had an opening.    Imagine my surprise when I walked in the door to Avalon to find Liz at the front desk.  When I asked what she was doing there, she said that she had heard I scheduled an appointment, so she made arrangements to come in to do my hair (not that easy since she is a new Mommy)!

Think about this from my perspective…  I am not a “regular” visitor at the hair salon.  Hair isn’t at the top of my list when it comes to what is important in my life- it had been over 5 months since my last visit!  I pretty much go for the easy-maintenance-do.  I am not one of their rich, heavy tipping clients or one who even looks “that” much better when I leave (even though I feel so much better!).   The fact that this person cared enough to come in on her day off to do something for me was very touching (and yes, I gave her a pretty nice tip for it!).

Acts of kindness, such as this, can really make a difference to somebody.  Those moments that you feel important; when a person, completely off your radar does something nice, just to make your day!   Of course it made me think about how this relates to agility.  Sorry, but you really expect anything different from me?

The little things are so precious!  Keep this in mind with your fellow competitors (not just those within your circle of friends).  No matter what their goals may be, we have to recognize that each person at a trial has put in a lot of hard work before stepping to the line with their dog.  Try not to be so wrapped up in your own agenda that you forget to take the time to watch others or ask how they did!

Agility isn’t only about having the fastest run (contrary to popular belief).  In general, everybody cheers for the crazy-fast runs, just on the edge of control, but takes little notice of a slower, steady team.  I challenge you to give every team that crosses the finish just as much applause for their effort.  Maybe stay for the Open or Novice classes and cheer on the newer participants (you were there once, yourself!).   You could also extend kindness by taking time to thank the club, secretary, volunteers or judges for their effort.

What goes around comes around.  Even if you are having a crummy day, don’t get self-absorbed in your own woes.  Instead,  increase the compliments you give and the kindness you show to others.   You might be surprised how it will find its way back to you!  Even if it doesn’t, you have made somebody else’s day just a little brighter!



  1. Very well said Lori. Thanks for posting such a heartfelt sentiment and sending out a reminder of the important things to keep in mind. A reminder such as this never hurts. Good luck with all future endeavors!!

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